How do you approach your teen about tough subjects? How do you explain the things in the world that just don’t make sense? Bad people doing good things? Good people doing bad things ? Fiction is a great place to start.
Billy Budd, Sailor, by Herman Melville, gives us an opportunity to talk about the difference between murder and manslaughter. Kids often feel sympathy for Billy Budd. If your child feels this way, you might find a talk about whether he deserved his sentence or not easy to get into.
Talking to our kids about tough topics builds them up in at least three ways.
- Gives them insights they might not think of on their own.
- Lets them know you are available.
- Makes memories between the two of you.
It’s important, but not always easy. Good fiction, like the classics, makes it possible with less effort. I call books like this 7-layer stories. 7-layer stories allow us to dig deeper into our worldview and sort it out.
David Carnahan’s daughter attends my LITClub. One day, he told me the reason he decided to place Kenzie in the club.
Listen to what he said about the power of story and parenting our children.
How do you bring up tough subjects with your children?